my spouse noticed me dishonest on her in her dream. What ought to I do?

Q: My spouse could be very upset with me. The opposite evening she noticed me dishonest on her in her dream (or, I ought to say, nightmare). What ought to I do, aside from ready for her to have a extra helpful dream?
R.T., Toorak, Vic

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A: I’m undecided what a “extra helpful dream” could be. Possibly a dream of you sitting down together with her, apologising in your infidelity, saying it meant nothing and that you just love solely her, then the 2 of you spending the subsequent six months seeing an overpriced Toorak marriage counsellor at a weekly $340 session … till your spouse wakes up and forgives you simply from monetary stress and tedium.

So you possibly can watch for that dream. Or you possibly can method this within the Non-Dream Actual-Life Precise World.

Sit down together with her and clarify that goals are sometimes a projection of an individual’s insecurities and he or she’s clearly apprehensive about dropping you since you’re such a fascinating particular person whose seems simply enhance with age – whereas her, not a lot (it’s possible you’ll need to phrase it extra tactfully; that is only a template, no matter you suppose works finest).